Aggression is Never Okay

I love this kiddo so much.

Last night was a very sad evening.

What was supposed to be a fun time ended with our hearts bruised, heavy, and sad.

Autism aggression is a real thing.

It can be a very scary thing.

It needs to be talked about.

Sometimes it comes on so fast, sometimes you can’t make it better or help make sense of things until it is over.

Sometimes things break and shatter, and nothing feels okay. It can be heartbreaking. The severity of it can be so much that you pray it doesn’t end in a wreck or a hospital visit.

I know we are not the only family dealing with this.

The only thing you can do is pick yourself back up, work and learn from mistakes, and try, try again.

You pray next time it will be just a little less scary.

For Eli, working on the thing that triggered the aggressive behavior and desensitize him from it, along with a LOT of conversations and open communication is the only way to help move past to make sure it hopefully doesn’t happen again.

Eli’s aggression comes from lack of communication, an anxiety disorder, and anger that flares up very quickly that makes him want to attack.

We will always work on these things every single day, giving him the tools to calm himself and express himself in a more appropriate manner.

Eli has come so far. Even though his aggressive attacks might be farther apart, the fact that he is getting bigger, makes it much more destructive.

Communicating by the use of aggression is never okay. I know Eli is capable of learning to verbally communicate and work on not getting to that “seeing red” point.

I refuse to give up or believe that he can’t overcome this. I believe he can.

The Kansas City Boat Show 2020

Does your child need the use of headphones to help drown out noise for sensory issues?

For Eli, it all depends on where we are going. If it is loud, we always make sure to have them handy or the poor little guy will be holding his ears the whole time.

Last Night we went to the Kansas City Boat and Sports show. They had a discount for families on Thursday night, and since it was a weeknight, we figured it might not be as packed.

When we parked the car and were ready to head in, I realized we forgot Eli’s Headphones!!!!

Now, if you your kiddo is a “headphone” type kiddo, it’s like a straight panic attack when you realize you don’t have them.

So, We just figured if we go in and it’s to much, we will just leave…. no biggie.

Guys, the place was amazing! It was so sensory friendly, really quiet actually and our whole family had a blast!

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The boys each played a reality video game, they were selling the coolest swings you could relax in, and we saw all kinds of boats, fish and more.

Remember me talking about haircuts, how we love Eli’s long hair and it works for him? How others sometimes think Eli is a girl? Well, at one point two female security guards ran us down when Eli and Scott were getting ready to hit the bathroom to inform them that they couldn’t because “she” had to use the girls bathroom.

We explained he is a boy, and I turned to her and said “You know, boys can have long hair too.” She just turned her nose up and walked off.. lol!

(Carter wouldn’t smile for me that stinker 😂, But he did have fun pretending to be super strong holding this boat up!)